A few days ago, I found myself in a familiar situation – in the middle of the supermarket, with a full cart and a three-year-old child starting to scream because I didn’t buy her candy. All eyes around me were on me, and I felt the pressure mounting. What should one do in such a moment?
Tantrums stem from a child's need to feel in control. When they don’t get what they want, they try to gain control through extreme behavior. Our role as parents is to help them find other ways to express themselves and manage their emotions.
What to do?
1. Stay Calm: It’s hard, I know, but our reaction is key. When we respond quietly and calmly, we convey a message of confidence and control to the child.
2. Identify and Name the Emotion: During a tantrum, you can say, “I see you’re very angry because you didn’t get the candy. It’s tough, isn’t it?” The child feels seen, which reduces some of the pressure.
3. Offer Choices: Instead of saying “no,” offer her an alternative. “I understand you want candy, but we can choose between yogurt or fruit.” This gives the child a sense of control over the situation.
Yes, tantrums can feel like a nightmare, but it’s important to remember that they are a tool for the child to express their emotions. With persistence, patience, and small tips, you will see how the tantrums calm down. And you? You’ll leave the supermarket proud of yourself!
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